tell you I'm leaving with a beautiful letter I received this morning.
I wrote a girl 23y.o. to me seeking advice (want to know which category a book belongs to my asshole that has to do) and I said that before he was fidanzatissima with a good guy who however did not go. The short
do, tells me that feels guilty, and that often sweeps over the sins he (the new, the bastard) for failing to have (him) in a stable relationship.
Seria, call!
I was spontaneous, to say that maybe that's okay. And I hope I have not messed up ... I hope not affect his decisions when I say that, perhaps, his own unconscious wish that, now, for himself. It is understood that
C. has always been the good girl of sound principles and now that the situation gets out of hand, because the wise guy is not only a lot bigger, but it's also the guy who says do not cut out for relationships of love (and keep it open) and is afraid to let go, poor, we do not understand anything.
not know if you are wasting your time, or if there is a little hope in the future of quail in something.
And I understand it, how many times I felt like her! Then
experience teaches you, first of all to reduce the problems, not all silver lining. Although at the moment it seems difficult to go forward, the world is gray, and every issue seems unresolvable.
You know, many times it is the unforeseen circumstances, those they do stagger our apparent equilibrium us to discover parts of ourselves that may not even suspect they existed. In psychology we call trauma.
The etymology of the word back to TRAUMA INJURY PERFORATING but also to the verb means that something, an external element, gets inside you to cause pain, which of course sooner or later you heal.
Basically, when something painful it shakes us we can not but bear the scars for a long time or for life if the power with which it was inflicted the wound is serious.
But a bit 'as a child when we scalded with hot water and learn that burns (and therefore do not ever do it again, that's for sure!) From that trauma learn to manage the dangers and discovered with astonishment that our body is made for protecting us from evil.
That's the sign on the skin (the heart) will alert us forever, not learning how to hurt us again.
In a sense, the traumas are positive! Why add those elements important to our lives that make us understand, open your eyes, weigh the pros and cons of the situation. The
that (in love) does not mean to get caught up for a ride (for the unhealthy taste for experience), obviously, but maybe back into the game, that is.
It's not wrong that you learn?
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